There’s quite a heated debate on the NE (Nutrition Entrepreneurs) listserv right now about self-promotion. Quite simply, the question is whether listserv members should be able to promote their products/services in emails to the listserv. We ran a survey (I’m on the Executive Board of NE) and the results were pretty clear cut in favor of allowing some degree of self-promotion as long as it’s an appropriate response–or at least related–to a question being posed by another listserv member.
RDs not feeling comfortable communicating their achievements, skills, and businesses has always been a big sticking point with me, and (as you may know) is a key reason I started Skelly Publishing. But the recent NE listserv debate has me wondering: what constitutes effective self-promotion? And what is it about self-promotion that turns off a certain segment of RDs on the NE listserv?
To help solve this question, I’ve tried to reframe it so that it’s not about the RD doing the self-promoting, but rather about the consumer–the one hearing the message. I think the answer to this lies in the answer to the following question: Does the consumer feel used?
Here are two examples, pulled from the recent listserv debate:
Example 1:
–someone posts an email asking for info on wt mgt programs for kids.
–an RD who owns and licenses a wt mgt program responds and offers her program
According to strictly-interpreted listserv guidelines, this is inappropriate self-promotion. But, does the consumer feel used? No, because she’s looking for a wt mgt program for kids! And, since listserv guidelines state that you should reply to the entire listserv unless the query asks for private responses only, posting this response to the listserv is entirely appropriate.
Example 2:
–Someone sends an email looking for a source to help her incorporate her business.
–An RD who has published a book on getting started in business provides some info about incorporating and then promotes her book so the RD can get ‘other business-related skills’
In this instance, I would say the consumer does feel used. The point of her post was to get specific sources for incorporation. If she additionally wanted to obtain business skills, she would have asked for that.
Case in point: I’m sitting in the lounge of my gym right now (my office away from my home office) and there’s a guy I met here who started chatting me up a few months ago. Turns out he sells an online fitness program and was trying to get me to sell it under him (not sure but sounds a bit pyramidal). In the course of this, he asked for my cell phone number, saying ‘we need to get you and your husband down to my restaurant (yes, he also owns a restaurant in my town), for a free steak dinner.’ I wasn’t thrilled about giving out my cell phone, but at my gym (it’s more like a club) it’s really not cool to seem unfriendly. Sure enough, I started getting endless texts from him (text blasts) inviting me to see this band they were having, or some other event. No free steak dinner, though
. As you can imagine, when I see this guy, I literally run in the other direction. He’s relentless about pushing his agenda. Result? I feel used.
I give this example because I think some RDs overcompensate for what they perceive as a ‘shrinking violet’ issue in our profession by being overly promotional and salesy. What they don’t realize is that their consumer feels used. I think they mistakenly believe that in the business world, people are promoting themselves in this way all the time, so it’s ok. The truth is that in the business world, people do promote themselves, but by stepping up and claiming what’s theirs, not by annoying people with endless–ineffective, by the way–salesy tactics.
I also think many RDs believe ‘everyone knows how to promote themselves but us.’ By giving this example, I want to show that–although others may feel more comfortable being salesy–it doesn’t mean it works! In fact, it’s a detriment: had this guy simply been friendly and conversational, I probably would have patronized his restaurant because I thought he was a nice guy. But you can imagine I’m never stepping foot in there now (unless it’s a really good free steak).
It’s a major problem, because RDs risk turning off potential clients by either being too timid, or overly blowhard. What’s hte happy medium? Given my background in marketing, I would suggest asking these two questions before I open my mouth: How do I uncover the needs my consumer has, and–once I’ve done that–what products/services/knowledge do I have that will help meet those needs? If I don’t have any products/services/knowledge to meet those needs, then perhaps I should continue asking questions and getting to know my consumer, rather than relentlessly plugging myself or my product.
And since I know you’re reading this because you’re interested in self-promotion (hey, it was in the title), Skelly Publishing offers a free 1-CPE webinar on effective self-promotion with RD career coach Jean Caton. Check it out (if you don’t feel used).